This fall I'm facing a phenomenon - no matter how sensitive I am, I've never felt so empty. And the only thing that gives me light in this endless apathy are writing and books. What you wrote helped me feel a little more understood. And that's a lot. Thank you.
Something about this really resonated with me. I've been trying to remind myself that softness isn't a flaw, but it still surprises me how hard it can be, even in my platonic relationships. All I want is to feel truly seen.
What are looking for in a relationship is not unreasonable…you want a real relationship, not the situationships that have become so commonplace today. Companionship, someone that has your back and puts you first. Someone who thinks and is thinking about you, and loves all of you. I get it.
But I’m also proud of you for showing interest but not allowing your boundaries to be crossed. That’s not self sabotage, that’s self preservation. Communication is important. Games are tiring. And lord knows if being with the right man is heaven, ending up with the wrong one is pure hell.
"I want to be tended to as if I’m a beautiful flower that needs tender care to be able to live her best and most beautiful life."
this is so real 🫠 i haven't been in a "relationship" since freshman year (Jan 2013) and I too long for someone to want to know me more. And more than bc of what I can do or how I look. I don't think this is unreasonable. What I did find (and wrote about recently) is I've been dodging pain so much I've even avoided deep friendships and that's the real love that'll shape you and stand guard while you remold from life experiences. Idk you lol but I've heard that asking your friends to introduce you to people works so if you've got some good ones I'd try that route. Good luck boo! Wishing dreams come true to me and you 🫶🏾
Thank you so much for this and for reading Brittany. It’s comforting knowing that you have similar sentiments bc no…it’s not unreasonable. I’m going to check out the piece you mentioned. I haven’t even considered my friends in that way, probably bc I don’t have many and we don’t even live in the same states 🫠 ha, sending us both all the good things 💜
This fall I'm facing a phenomenon - no matter how sensitive I am, I've never felt so empty. And the only thing that gives me light in this endless apathy are writing and books. What you wrote helped me feel a little more understood. And that's a lot. Thank you.
This truly made my day, I’m so glad it found you 🌸
Something about this really resonated with me. I've been trying to remind myself that softness isn't a flaw, but it still surprises me how hard it can be, even in my platonic relationships. All I want is to feel truly seen.
What are looking for in a relationship is not unreasonable…you want a real relationship, not the situationships that have become so commonplace today. Companionship, someone that has your back and puts you first. Someone who thinks and is thinking about you, and loves all of you. I get it.
But I’m also proud of you for showing interest but not allowing your boundaries to be crossed. That’s not self sabotage, that’s self preservation. Communication is important. Games are tiring. And lord knows if being with the right man is heaven, ending up with the wrong one is pure hell.
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"I want to be tended to as if I’m a beautiful flower that needs tender care to be able to live her best and most beautiful life."
this is so real 🫠 i haven't been in a "relationship" since freshman year (Jan 2013) and I too long for someone to want to know me more. And more than bc of what I can do or how I look. I don't think this is unreasonable. What I did find (and wrote about recently) is I've been dodging pain so much I've even avoided deep friendships and that's the real love that'll shape you and stand guard while you remold from life experiences. Idk you lol but I've heard that asking your friends to introduce you to people works so if you've got some good ones I'd try that route. Good luck boo! Wishing dreams come true to me and you 🫶🏾
Thank you so much for this and for reading Brittany. It’s comforting knowing that you have similar sentiments bc no…it’s not unreasonable. I’m going to check out the piece you mentioned. I haven’t even considered my friends in that way, probably bc I don’t have many and we don’t even live in the same states 🫠 ha, sending us both all the good things 💜